Saying Sorry

My husband and I got into a bit of a tiff yesterday.  I won't get into the details of what the "tiff" was about, but it was like a cold war: we spoke civilly, but really we just avoided one another.  At the end of the day, he said, "sorry", but he didn't mean it.

How do I know this?  No, it's not my psychic abilities - so shush you guys out there being sarcastic and rolling your eyes at my female whining here.  He once said to me, "Well, I just say sorry.  One of us has to and I figure I might as well get it over with."
 
w.t.f.?

So, I know he sometimes just apologizes without really meaning it.  Last night, he said, "That's just what guys do.  We say we're sorry.  We try to get it over with."  My question is...why say something when you don't mean it?  Do you really think THAT is going to solve the problem?

Then, he said to me, "Well, why is it okay when you say you're sorry?"  Um, hello.  I only say it when I mean it.  And that is the truth.  I won't ever tell him sorry when I'm not...because what good is that?

His argument back is that someone has to resolve it.

Um, hello.  That is not resolving the problem.  That's just trying to end the argument...but it just pushes it under the rug until next time.  Annoying.

Sometimes I wonder about my husband's thinking.  It's a good thing I still love the butthead, because yesterday he was really getting on my nerves.

That's Life....Just Deal With It?

During lunch with an old friend of mine, she argued how it is unjust how attractive people get more attention.  She was saying that when her kids were babies, they were so cute that people had come up to her all the time, telling her how adorable they were, etc. etc.  She started talking about how unfair it is that attractive people get more attention.

And I sat there, pondering whether I felt it was unjust as well.  I didn't and I still don't.  My kids get all sorts of attention.  People come up to us on the street all the time, cooing "Ooooh, they're so cute," or "What a pretty girl."  I assumed most people did this to all kids because aren't all kids adorable in some way?

My friend continued to say, "That stuff never happened to me before, but with the cute kids, it happened all the time.  It's just so unjust that attractive people seem to get more." 

Sitting there, I kept wondering whether I was a bad person to think it wasn't a big deal: So what if attractive people get more? And before some of you start thinking that I must be one of the beautiful ones garnering the extra, undeserved attention, trust me, that is not the case.  While I may not be ugly, I am surely not in line with the likes of Heidi Klum, Catherine Zeta-Jones, or Jessica Alba.  And just because the beautiful people are apt to get more attention and/or stuff, I don't fault them for it...or see it as unjust.  I think that is just how life is and we have to deal with it.

I also think that beautiful people can turn ugly in an instant if they have a horrible personality.  So, while they may get attention in the beginning, if they don't have a good personality, it is doubtful others will pay much attention to them.

An Angel Looking Over Us

You ever have the feeling that you have an angel looking out for you?  Or that there's some higher power who is watching you?  I felt that way the other day.

My son and I walk around the neighborhood on a daily basis.  He always stops by this huge tree that has these hanging branches; he loves to walk around it and play with the twigs near the trunk.  And like normal, the other day, we spent a good 10 minutes by this one particular tree and then headed back to our house.  We walked about 15-20 feet when we heard the crash.  I turned around and saw this huge tree branch lying where we had been standing just moments before.  This branch wasn't a small arm-length branch; it was larger than my son. 

I definitely felt like something was watching over us that day, keeping us safe.  It was an incredible feeling.