Another day, another ailment

I'm not sure if it's stress or what, but I have not been all that healthy as of late. I had another round of Vertigo this last weekend - YES, over the holiday weekend! WTF - that lasted until today. I feel a lot better today, but if I move too much (like trying to get 5 loads of laundry washed, dried, folded, and put away) I tend to get a little dizzy. At least it's not the dizziness of the first day, where I felt nauseous after walking less than 10 feet.

This is the second time I have had Vertigo. The first time was in May and I had no idea what the hell was wrong with me. I have to admit that it must be a bit karmic. Years ago, I had a staff person call in sick with Vertigo and while I accepted her reason, when I hung up, I thought, "What kind of made-up illness is that?" But let me tell you, Vertigo is no joke. I'd take a head cold that lasted 10 days over 4 days of Vertigo.

From the research I've read, Vertigo strikes people when they get older. Apparently, I am getting "older" or there is something else going on. Because I have been a pretty healthy person up till this year, I scheduled an appointment with the doctor tomorrow. I want to rule out that the symptoms I am feeling are part of a larger problem at play. Or figure out how to avoid getting Vertigo again.

I have too much to do. I don't have time for crap like this. Seriously.

Have you ever had symptoms like dizziness or being unbalanced? 

(Obviously, I mean when sober...not the whoozy, spinning rooms from being intoxicated! haha)

The Worst Mom Ever

I know he is just trying to get his way. And I know I must keep the boundaries and follow-through. However, this constant crying...makes me feel like the worst mom ever.

Some days I feel like the worst mom ever. Don't get me wrong. Some days I feel like the best mom ever, but today was not one of those days.

Or actually, maybe I was a bit schizophrenic today. We had our ups and downs. After one meltdown, we played with rubber stamps and all was well. A short 30 minutes later, he was back in tears. Yes, he was overtired, but it didn't make me feel any better.

My son is almost 3.5 years old. In his short life, he has tested my patience more times than I can count. I cannot even begin to imagine what a simple day without a tantrum looks like. Okay, I exaggerate. I have those days. But again, today was not one of those days.

He is the most stubborn child I have ever known. And trust me, I have known a lot. I worked in the childcare field for over a decade. I thought I had seen stubborn. Clearly, I was mistaken. If God gives us only what we can handle, apparently, he thinks I can handle a whole lot...and I am not sure I am cut out for the job.

Today, he cried for about 30 or so minutes because he wanted to look at some photographs. Thing is, he wanted to only see them with me, not with Daddy, not with his sister, just me. I had told him it was time for bed and no stalling. He was not having it. In the end, I did not relent - no photograph looking - and he ended up asleep. Seriously though, prior to his peaceful slumber, I wanted to BASH MY HEAD AGAINST THE WALL....HARD...MULTIPLE TIMES.

About a month ago, he cried in the for 40 minutes because he wanted to go to the pumpkin patch. He cries if you tell him he can't have what he wants.

The irony? He cries less when he actually hurts himself. The other night, my daughter accidentally closed the door on his fingers. It must have scraped because it pulled some skin. It looked really painful. Total crying time? FIVE whole minutes and he was off running again.

Girl Drama

As women, the majority get caught up in girl drama, even if we try to avoid it. It just happens. Either we get too emotional or we have what we deem "psycho friends" who stir shit up. It is what it is.

Fortunately, most of us outgrow it...or just decide not to deal with that crap anymore and move on. I am one of those "F*** it" type people. I do what I do...and try not to get involved in any drama. So, I thought I was done with all that.

Too bad I forgot I have a tween daughter that will be going through it...erhm, NOW.

Damn.

What is it about females that they have to get all drama-like about friendships. "She's trying to steal my friend." "She's getting all hangy-on with my friend." "I don't like so-and-so, but I know you're friends with her. I don't want to put you in the middle, but I can't believe she did...this...and that...and blah blah blah."

C R A P.

They are only 10. This is only the beginning.

Add puberty, boys, and hormones to this girl drama....and what will I get?

TOTURE. PAIN. HORRIFIC NIGHTMARES TO COME.

Just kill me now. It will be less painful than what the next few years will bring.

Trying this blog thing again

I've been a blogger for years. I originally started it to "journal" more. I had always been a person who kept a journal of my life: my high school drama, college escapades, travels to other countries. In fact, I still have them though I don't read them.

So, I started blogging and loved it, but then I started blogging for the wrong reasons. I blogged more for the comments than for myself. And while I enjoyed the feedback and the popularity while it lasted, because it wasn't for me, it didn't "stick." I have blog-sites I hardly use.

This is another attempt - new site, new beginning: this blog is for me. If people read it, so be it. If they don't, it was for me anyhow...so I'm okay with that.

My daughter....is like a mini-me. Heaven help me.

My daughter is getting to that age where crushes are pretty common.  She tells me about who has a crush on whom...and in her class, that happens to be a lot.  She decided a couple years ago that crushes were "too much work" and fortunately, for me (and her Daddy), she is still thinking that way.  Our daughter had explained why: "When I was in preschool, I had a crush on Reid.  Katrina also had a crush on him.  And when you have a crush, then you have to try to get his attention.  That's too much work, so I don't have a crush on anyone."

But what happens when someone has a crush on her?  Well, read on.  Today's conversation went something like this:

Daughter: Guess what?


Me: What?


Daughter: Kasie (her friend) has a friend in 3rd grade and her friend told her that a boy has a crush on me.


Me: How did she know that?


Daughter: Her friend heard about it, went up to him and asked.  The boy admitted that he had a crush on me.


Me: Who's the boy?


Daughter: I don't know.  His name is Chris.


Me: You don't know him?


Daughter: No.


Me: Well then how does he know you?


Daughter: I have no idea.


Me: What did you say to Kasie when she told you?


Daughter: So what!?

I sort of feel bad for that little boy.  What attitude she has.  And all my friends can say to me is, "That's you.  She's a little you.  Good luck with that," as they laugh.

Actually, if she keeps on this track, at least she's keeping the boys at bay.  That's a good thing, right?

Kids are growing up so much earlier.  I can't even fathom the thought of a first date.  When are kids starting to date nowadays?  How many more years do I have before I have to worry about her dating?

What I've Learned About Marriage

In less than a month, my husband and I will be celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary.  We've made it through some pretty rough times and while I have to admit it's not always chocolate and roses, we have a good marriage.  We have a good time together, laughing and joking around.  We communicate, but most of all, we sincerely trust and love one another.

This is some of what I've learned over the last 10+ years about marriage about how to make a relationship work.

1. Laugh...a lot, at situations, at life, at yourself.  So much horrible stuff can happen in the world, but if you take it seriously ALL the time, then you'll just be irritated and angry.  Sometimes it's just best to laugh about it and then try to solve the problem, whatever it may be.

2. Let the little things go.  So what if he can't seem to stack the dishwasher properly!  So what that he can't fold laundry.  Is it really that important?  Don't nag him about it...just think about all the things he can do, like clean out the nasty leaves in the drains on the roof or wash the car.  So what if she leaves her makeup on the counter!  So what if she forgot to shut off the heat or a/c!  Don't make her feel bad about it...just think about all the things she did that week: grocery shopping, making dinner, etc.  (My husband still has some work to do on this one, some days. HAHA.)  Just let it all go...and do #1: LAUGH. 

3. Spend some time together in the present - without distractions of the phone, the computer, the kids.  Even if it's just a few moments, laughing about something silly, tickling each other out of the blue, or kissing each other like you did back in the "old days", just do it.  People need that connection. 

4. Remember the good times.  Look back at old photos to remember when.  Think back to when you first met.  All relationships have history.  If you remember your relationship throughout its time - not just when you're arguing about housework or lack of sleep - you'll remember all the things about your significant other that made you fall in love with him/her in the first place.

5.  Don't place too much importance on symbols.  It's not uncommon to hear:  a spouse is upset that his/her significant other doesn't wear a wedding band.  Sure, this could be a sign of a problem - I admit that.  But sometimes that's a symptom of a bigger problem...other times, it doesn't mean anything.  I don't always wear my wedding band.  In the winter months, I apply hand cream like a madwoman or my skin gets dry.  Sometimes I forget to put it back on.  It doesn't mean I don't love my husband.  Likewise, get this: my husband lost his ring a couple years ago.  We haven't replaced it.  Why?  It's just a symbol; it's not the end-all-be-all representation of how much we love one another.  Eventually, we'll get it replaced. It's not on our priority list.

And while I am sure there are other tried-and-true things that make a relationship work, these were the first five that popped in my head...the obvious things like trust, communication, and respect goes without saying, right?

The Pumpkin Patch

Every year, my husband and I take our kids to the Pumpkin Patch - to pick out a couple pumpkins, take some photos, and have some fun.  It's our ritual, our little family tradition.  It's usually a nice, relaxing, and inexpensive afternoon.  Today, it was $34.00 - for two pumpkins and 2 tickets for the train ride.  Seriously?

When did this become such an expensive undertaking?  When did I become old enough to start saying, "Remember when it used to cost...blah blah blah?"

Despite the highway robbery disguised as pumpkin purchasing, the kids had a good time.  My son had a great time; from petting and feeding the rabbits to sitting on a tractor, from running through the hay bale maze to riding on the train, the kid had a blast.  Of course, he's two and easily entertained.  My daughter had a good time, too, but I'm sure she's more excited about actually carving the pumpkins, which we'll probably do next Saturday. The fact that she's "old" now frightens me - she's too "old" to ride the train.  When did my little girl get so big? 

Overall, it was a good time and we've continued our family tradition.  I don't recall any Halloween family traditions growing up - I'm not sure if that's due to my horrible memory or the fact that as a child of a single mom, we just didn't really "do" Halloween, save for, of course, my trick-or-treating.  So, I do my best to keep the traditions alive. Hopefully, they will last for awhile.  At what age will our kids not want to be around us?